STOP asking homemakers why they don’t have a job. First of all, unless you’re their partner, that’s none of your business. Second off all, they DO have a job: homemaker. Respect it.
We do not know the arc of other people’s lives to know what factors contributed to them being homemakers. Not everyone who is a homemaker has always been or may always be a homemaker. And homemakers do not owe justifying their choice or circumstances to [judgmental] people who cannot keep their nose on their own face where it belongs.
Sure, some homemakers may have it “easier” than others. Just as some employed people work hard, while others hardly work. But the presumption (stigma) that being a homemaker is “easy” compared to having a “real” job (or at all) is not only ignorant, it’s illogical.
Any one of the many jobs that a homemakers does in one day is worth a paycheck, but risks and rewards assigned to them doing those jobs are worth more than a paycheck. And, unlike employment outside the home, homemakers can never clock out. Even when they are not at home, they are still running errands and/or making decisions for the benefit of their home. There are jobs where an employee may be on-call 24/7, but being on-call 24/7 is not the same thing as literally being on the job 24/7.
Of course, the monetary value of employment cannot be understated. Without income homemakers wouldn’t have a residence to make a home. The point is not that either is tougher or more valuable than the other, but that they both matter, especially when they work in tandem.
This applies whether you’re coupled or single. In absence of a partner, a person is still faced with the prospect of making a home for themselves. But, adding others (particularly kids and/or a live-in partner) to the equation makes the job even more complicated. Which is compounded by being a single working parent both in and out of the home.
Whatever our circumstances of employment or living arrangement, whoever we are, whatever we do or become, and wherever we go in life all start at home. Home (or the lack there of) is the foundation of our prospects and personal development in the world around us. Surely, we cannot take for granted the people charged with providing that foundation?
How often do we encounter damaged people and presume their “issues” originate from a broken home? (There’s much more to having a home than simply having a place of residence.) Whether that presumption is correct or incorrect, it’s ingrained in our collective social consciousness that home life is a primary determining factor in our overall life, for better or worse.
So, it stands to reason that if the product (home) is so important, so must be the production (homemaking) and producer (homemaker). Respect. #dontBSyourself